Helping an Addicted Person

Despite all Your Efforts to Help

From the substance abuser’s perspective, this subject can be a very real issue. You, as a relative or parent, may consider that you have done more than your share of help. Yet, despite all your efforts, the person only turns around and continues to abuse drugs or alcohol. At a glance, this scenario is more common than one may believe. But how do you start successfully helping an addicted person?

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Oh, I Can’t Pay My Rent!

How many times has your loved one talked about their financial difficulties? Their rent being late, bills not paid, or they can’t afford food for the children, etc. There are as many scenarios like this as there are people who are abusing mind-altering substances. The person presents a problem or some urgency, and you are the only one who can solve this thing. And more often than not, you help by paying their phone bill or send a few dollars so they can eat a hot meal. This reaction is normal. You are attempting to hold off the homelessness, starvation, cut communication, etc.

Ability to Deal with Life & State of Mind

In fact, it is not proper help despite the good intent mentioned above. For anyone abusing some mind-altering substance, it’s only a matter of time before the ability to deal with life dwindles. They lose the ability to be responsible, caring, understanding, and other qualities you usually recognize. These qualities are what permit everyday lives to function in this current society.

It takes proper recognition of the actions needed to eat each day. One needs to purchase food, so one needs to have income. To have money, one needs to work, etc. This statement is a given for anyone in a proper state of mind. But the drug-addicted individual does not think this way. They are constantly bothered by the need for another high, buzz, rush, numbness, thrill, etc. Therefore, they depend on a clear-minded relative to aid in the important actions to make it to tomorrow. But that is not the real cry for help the abuser is trying to voice.

Hear Them Out, Listen, Understand

At times, you will hear the person struggling with some addiction state: “no one ever listens” or “no one cares.” Often due to some agency, a friend, or a relative telling the person what is wrong with them. You can be sure that the abuser is quite aware there is something not right, just as you are. There is no need to tell the person your “opinion” of what is wrong. It can only set things back. This person needs others to take a moment and “listen” (when they are sober.) Helping an addicted person is being there and hearing what the person has to say.

You may be surprised at what you will discover. The person may open up and tell you how tired they are of using drugs or alcohol. Or they may blame you and the world for their state of affairs. Your task is to receive this and understand it and let them know you got the communication. It does not mean you need to AGREE. But let them know you heard what they said that it was received and understood. You will be amazed at how this can bring a more profound and more sincere dialogue.

Helping an addicted person

What is the Game Plan?

The whole reason is to get the individual comfortable talking to someone who will not judge, evaluate, or degrade their communication. You can now build on the dialogue from this newfound trust and bring the person to accept help. So, the next time your daughter, son, or spouse says, “nobody ever listens,” you know what to do. Reply with “I’m here and ready to listen” and do so. They might refuse at first but repeat the same reply. Eventually, they will see your sincerity. You will get more done this way. With your conversations, get them to recognize for themselves that they need aid. You are not there to give them money or pay their bills, nor are you there to bail them out of their own problems. Your task is to listen and get them to see the light. At one point, they will request your help for professional addiction counselling. Then, by all means, do what you can to make it happen.

Helping More Than You Think

Drugs or alcohol causes the person to become introverted (looking inwards). Their drug use sticks them in a mixing bowl of thoughts, emotions, and feelings. By having the person open up little by little, you are assisting in sorting through these confusions. The results may happen rapidly or over a length of time. But whatever occurs, do not give up. Following these simple steps will save you from anxieties, frustrations, and worries and may well save your loved one’s life.

Call a professional substance abuse referral counsellor if you have difficulties helping an addicted person. They can guide you. They’re available to take your call.

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