A Ruin: A Devastating Event
An Addicted’s Life & Intervention
The addicted person has things in their past or present that seem devastating and have something to do with drugs. One example is a person who lost his best friend to addiction. Another example is a person losing their spouse and child over drug abuse.
A family member can look at a person’s life and see hundreds of reasons they should quit using. But unfortunately, these reasons are not REAL to the addicted. However, there are problems the individual encounters that are real or significant in their life, which they see as a reason to quit using drugs. These are important to identify because they may remind the addict why they must seek help during the intervention.
I’m Doing Alright
The addicted person doesn’t necessarily see their drug addiction the way a non-addicted might. For instance, they might have semi-serious health problems, no friends, and no job or income but feel like they are “doing OK.” Many will overdose on drugs, come very close to death, and are right back using the very next day. This may appear crazy, but, in fact, it is only part and parcel of addiction. With this in mind, the addicted will encounter added pressure from time to time. Events that force them to make an actual decision about whether to seek help or continue to use will occur.
Pending legal charges leading to jail time, the threat of divorce, the uncertain loss of a job are all possible situations. A person who has enough pressure, a reality check of sorts, will want to fight the addiction and seek help. Although any of these may or may not work, some strains can come to bear that prod the person to seek help.
Seeking Help & Addiction Intervention
It is easy to assume the addict is “only seeking help to avoid jail” or some other evaluation, which is true in many cases. The fact remains that most addicted people will only seek help when someone or something pushes them out of their “addiction comfort zone.” Very few addicts with access to money, a place to live, and no legal issues seek help. With people who stay quiet toward their usage, they “don’t have a problem.”
This is very important to understand and will be crucial in any attempt at intervention. With this in mind, the addict will encounter added pressure from time to time, which forces them to make an actual decision about whether to seek help or continue to use.
This next point is also important in planning an intervention and should be considered.
Who Should Be at the Intervention?
If possible, the person in the family whom the addict respects the most should be there. This person is highly regarded by the addicted and whose opinions have weight. But this individual needs to be fully supportive and informed about the actual plan.
As many family members as possible should attend. They should be in complete agreement that the person needs help and show support throughout the process. You should leave out anyone that shows hostility toward the addict; this process is about helping, not pointing fingers. When you know someone can’t restrain themselves from arguments and blame, do not permit their presence
Arguments & Resentments
Usually, the addict has many enemies and has done wrong to most family members. But arguments and disruption will not benefit the cause. In fact, it will usually result in a failed intervention because the focus becomes the argument and not on the matters at hand.
You may want to seek help establishing who should attend the intervention because it is a strategic factor. If you are uncertain and need help please give us a call.