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Living with someone who is affected by addiction can be one of the most difficult and emotionally draining experiences a person can face. You may feel confused, exhausted, worried, or unsure of how to help—while also trying to protect yourself and your family.
Addiction not only impacts the person using substances; it affects everyone around them.
Having addressed many families in similar situations, we understand how overwhelming this can be. Our referral counsellors have been where you are. Support is available, not just for the person struggling with substance use but for family members as well.
Understanding addiction:
Addiction can seem complex because;
It affects the body
Alters emotions
Scrambles thought patterns
Learning about addiction can help you better understand why your relative may act in ways that seem hurtful or irrational. This understanding allows you to respond with the required compassion, while also recognizing when certain behaviours should not be tolerated or enabled. Help and resources are available.
Setting boundaries is part of the process to protect your well-being when living with someone who is affected by problematic drug or alcohol use. Boundaries are not punishments or ultimatums; they are clear limits that define what you can and cannot accept to stay safe and in control, either emotionally, physically, or financially.
Boundaries help create structure in situations that often feel chaotic or unpredictable. They allow you to support your loved one without enabling harmful behaviours or sacrificing your own health. It is not uncommon to feel guilt, fear, or doubt when setting boundaries, especially when dealing with addiction. In many cases, consistent boundaries can encourage personal responsibility and make it clearer that help is needed.
Boundaries should be set calmly, clearly, and decisively, stating what is expected of the user if they are to stay around you. It is more effective than arguments or repeated warnings. Following boundaries consistently is essential, even when it feels difficult.
FAMILY SUPORT GROUPS in Canada
Canadian nonprofit that supports families affected by substance use. They provide education, peer-led support groups, and practical tools to help loved ones cope, set healthy boundaries, and reduce isolation—while encouraging recovery in a compassionate, non-judgmental way.
A support fellowship for family members and friends of people affected by drug addiction. Through peer-led meetings and shared experiences, Nar-Anon helps individuals cope with the emotional impact of a loved one’s substance use, set healthy boundaries, and focus on their own well-being.
Provides education, and resources for individuals and families affected by substance use and mental health challenges, including family education programs and support services to help loved ones better understand addiction and recovery.
Supporting someone affected by addiction often means encouraging them to face the impact of their actions while offering emotional support.
Trying to protect your son, daughter, or spouse from consequences may come from a place of love, but it can unintentionally allow the substance use to continue. Enabling behaviours may include,
Covering up problems.
Lending money.
Taking responsibility for their actions.
To learn more about this topic and its consequences, you can read this article on enabling behaviours.
When it is possible, encourage your loved one to seek professional treatment. Conversations are most effective when they come from concern, rather than blame, so be sure to avoid any blame or negativity. Treatment options may include,
You do not have to navigate these choices alone.
If the situation becomes unsafe—emotionally, physically, or financially, it’s important to put your safety first or those of young children. Without protecting yourself, it becomes difficult to support anyone else.
Creating distance or stepping away from someone who is affected by drug or alcohol use does not demonstrate a lack of concern; it reflects the need for self-protection in a complex and emotionally demanding situation.
Recovery is a process, and setbacks can happen. While it’s natural to hope for change, it’s also important to recognize that you cannot control another person’s recovery. What you can do is access support, set boundaries, and make informed decisions for yourself.
If you are living with someone who is affected by problematic substance use and don’t know what to do next, you can call us. Our certified referral counsellors are available to answer your questions and guide you through the process.
They can also help you understand the available treatment options across Canada. Having been in the field of substance use treatment since 1998, we know that something can be done about it.
You can call drugaddiction.ca today or request a confidential callback.
We’re here to support you—every step of the way.
Drug & Alcohol Treatment Specialist,
Referral and Consultation Counsellor
and Recovery Coach
If you or someone you care about is struggling, you don’t need to navigate this alone. Free, confidential support is available every day.
